This tap-along is focusing on a relationship issue you might have with a spouse, and X, Mother, Father, parents-in-law, Brother, Sister/in-laws, Children, Boss, Co-worker even team mates.
- Pick the person who drives you crazy the most, makes you lose your mind, keeps you in a turmoil at all times, wakes you up just wanting to throttle them…
- Now rate the intensity of how much he/she really gets you worked up and how much trouble they are in your life. This scale is from 1 – 10, where 10 is the worst.
- Tap your Karate chop spot, outside edge of either palm, below the baby finger and above the wrist bone, read and repeat:
Even though [person’s name] is going to drive me insane with [his/her] actions and her constant complaining and blaming, I know I should be open to loving and accepting myself but I can’t get her out of my head long enough to do that.
Even though she interferes, passes judgment and she doesn’t even know what she is talking about, she keeps butting in where she doesn’t belong nor wanted and she makes it so hard for me to come to the Loving and Accepting part of this process and I am willing to tap about her anyway.
Even though no one should have to put up with her bs, she accuses, she ridicules and it’s never her fault, talk about being a b***h, she wins the prize for that department and I would love to be open enough to love and accept myself and let go of her crap long enough to do it.
Hey… I am hanging onto her stuff and IT IS making me feel overwhelmed and out of control, how does she do that??? Or is it me doing that to me? I have read lots of LOA stuff about whatever you put out, you get back and as I see it I have been obsessing about her and her baggage so much that I have let it affect me…. Wow… I didn’t see it this way before but at least I feel I can now do something about how I feel… if she was "doing it to me" then I am just a victim and would be helpless, defenseless and vulnerable and that is definitely lowering my vibration and attracting more people like her… YIKES!!! cancel that thought and tap that negativity out of my system.
So, if I am the only one who can make me feel anything and I thought she was making me feel, then I have been cheating myself out of some peace of mind… Oh, man… she doesn’t control me or how I feel, I make that choice and have I ever been mean and cruel to me in what I have created in my head… I thought it was her but what if it is me? These negative thoughts of her are what are driving me nuts, keeping my blood pressure high, causing sleepless nights, it’s not her at all, it’s me responding to my thoughts of her… oh, my… then I can change my thoughts and that will change how I feel and she can do all the interfering, complaining and blaming and I don’t have to react to it the same way I always have?
Now that is de-stressing me… I was the one who felt out of control and now I chose to take back the control of what thoughts I think and how I respond to her… what if she can go on and behave the same and I can just stop and smell the roses, see the bright side of me taking care of me, loving and accepting where I am in this moment and not have her bother me one bit… now that is EMOTIONAL FREEDOM.
Take a big breath in and out… have a drink of water…
Now go back and see what the intensity rating is about the person you were so mad at… see if you have let some of the frustration or anger go… if you have, good, for it is only you who can change your mind, I can’t do that for you, that’s how powerful you are.
If the number is still up there but not as bad as before, tap through this one more time, at least until you drop your stress about them to a 1 or a 2… you have a gentle, easy, step by step way to create Emotional Freedom around any stressful issue in your life.
Don’t clutter up your beach with debris, clear it up with EFT.
Dawn Murray, EFT Expert